PNG is in the early stages of an HIV/AIDS epidemic. It is important to undertand how the sexual behaviour of Huli men and women will influence the form of the epidemic in the Tari area. This paper describes how some Tari women have become sexually promiscuous, scandalising their families and debasing their bride value.They feel their male kin have failed to observe their customary obligations in the aftermath of rapes when offenders go unpunished. The women see their actions not as sex work but a form of revenge on their families and culture that seem to no longer value them. To them, bridewealth marriage has changed and they feel commodified.